Familylab is the swedish part of Family-Lab association, an international education- and counselling organisation, which was founded by Jesper Juul. 

Jesper Juul was a danish familytherapist and writer who published a lot of books about relations in families and upbringing. He was known for his attitude, which was striving for equality and mutuality between children and adults (free translated from wikipedia.se).

 

Competence of relations

Competence of relations not just a method or tool. It goes much deeper. "The competence of relations is the skill and the wanting for taking over the whole responsibility for the relations quality between kid and adult." (Jepser Juul, free translated from german)

Fundamental values for competence of relations:

equal dignity, responsibility, authenticity, dialog (from http://familylab.ch/files/Beziehungskompetenz.pdf).


The question is not how to DO with the kid, it's about how to BE with the kid.